Social media is a marvel of recent times, from no existence to mass existence it has almost taken over all aspects of our social life, socializing online has become our favorite past time and people are inclining more towards it relinquishing almost completely the way how we used to socialize in past.
But often we have seen the abuse of using social media websites like Facebook, Twitter etc, and the question is how much is too much? We all have those friends, whose lives are played out on social media, every cough and spit of their intimate relationships is littering your Facebook timeline.
Scientists believe those who overshare on social media are hardwired to do so. A new piece of research has suggested a person’s brain can be ‘programmed’ to share information about themselves. Those who do spill all on Facebook have heightened activity in the regions of the brain relating to self-cognition.
Representing your ‘true selves’ seems a bit easy online, but posting heavily on Facebook will not get you the attention you seek. What is a true self? It’s a concept—the idea that we possess qualities we’d like to be recognized for, but that we normally find ourselves unable to express in day-to-day life.
Perhaps it is easier to be nice to people online, though. People feel more comfortable expressing their true selves online, and that those people tend to be the ones who make close Internet friends.
Facebook, is primarily for people you already know. When people express their true selves to their “real life” friends online, in email or instant messaging, it can strengthen their relationship. But the fact cannot be ruled out that social networks are less personal, more public, and so have different dynamics.
People who felt that they were more truly themselves online were more likely to communicate with others on Facebook, disclose things about themselves, and post emotional updates about frustrations or “drama.”
But, “this expression of the true self…appears to operate at the unconscious level,” So unconsciously if you always posts sappy song lyrics, you don’t realize the fact that you are trying to broadcast about how sensitive you are.
Unfortunately, the catharsis of posting those sad quotes may only make people lonelier in the end. The oversharing doesn’t seem to elicit the warm, comforting Internet embrace that posters seek.
People use Facebook to present themselves the way they want to be seen, and to get a sense of belonging. The motivations behind the posts are mostly self-oriented. Posters seek attention and a feeling of inclusion, but are seemingly less interested in expressing caring for others. They treat Facebook like a drive-thru window, seeking a quick and easy dose of attention.